Education Programmes
We provide family violence education programmes for Wāhine, Tāne and Tamariki.
This is a healing journey for those who have experienced family violence.
Our whakapapa connects us, it connects our tupuna, it makes us Whānau.
Safety is paramount for all Wāhine, Tamariki and Whānau.
Wāhine Whakamana
Wānanga/ Programme
This programme is for Wāhine who have experienced family violence.
What if you woke up tomorrow morning and were living your perfect life?
How would it look different than the life you are living today?
If your dream life includes freedom from violence and abuse, this wānanga/programme is for you.
It can help you create the life you deserve where you are loved and respected and can achieve your full potential.
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When you are subject to violence and abuse all your energy may go into keeping yourself and your tamariki safe, monitoring your abusers’ moods and keeping the peace.
Wāhine who live this way miss opportunities to engage in activities they enjoy, explore their talents and strengths, spend time with people who make them happy and be all they can be.
Imagine what your life could be if all the energy you put into managing your abuser was put into following your dreams.
What could you achieve?
How satisfying could your life be?
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Family violence comes in many forms.
It can be physical violence, name calling, threats, intimidation, harassment, not letting you have money, threatening to separate you from your children and a range of other harmful behaviours.
It can be used by partners, parents, children or grandchildren, flatmates, caregivers, or anyone you are in a close personal relationship with.
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The Wāhine Whakamana Wananga/ Programme is designed and facilitated to provide techniques, ideas and practices for Wāhine working towards creating positive change in their lives.
It provides an opportunity to connect with other Wāhine with similar experiences, goals, and dreams with the support from a skilled facilitator to help achieve your goals.
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Duration: Weekly 2hr sessions for 10 weeks during the school term.
Whakawhanaunga & Kawa
Building Relationships
Whānau Safety & Self Care
Who Am I?
Legal (Protection Orders etc.)
Self Care
Support Networks
Safety § Career Planning
Reflections
Hakari & Graduation
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Your facilitator is here to answer any questions you have about the wananga/programme.
We can help you organise transport and support with any barriers you may have impacting your ability to attend.
You can call our team for a chat or come in and have a coffee with her between 9am and 4.30pm Monday to Friday.
Office: 07 378 5204
Email: info@twowrefuge.org.nz
Wāhine Empowerment
Wānanga/ Programme
This programme is for Wāhine who have experienced family violence.
Kete Uruuru Matua
Basket of peace, goodness and love.
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When you are subject to violence and abuse all your energy may go into keeping yourself and your tamariki safe, monitoring your abusers’ moods and keeping the peace.
Wāhine who live this way miss opportunities to engage in activities they enjoy, explore their talents and strengths, spend time with people who make them happy and be all they can be.
Imagine what your life could be if all the energy you put into managing your abuser was put into following your dreams.
What could you achieve?
How satisfying could your life be?
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Family violence comes in many forms.
It can be physical violence, name calling, threats, intimidation, harassment, not letting you have money, threatening to separate you from your children and a range of other harmful behaviours.
It can be used by partners, parents, children or grandchildren, flatmates, caregivers, or anyone you are in a close personal relationship with.
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The Kete Uruuru Matua Programme is focused on safety and learning. It provides an opportunity to connect with other wāhine with similar experiences, goals and dreams.
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Needs Assessment & Safety Planning.
Creating kawa/tikanga.
Safety plans in place and options.
Safety Sessions
Tipako: Unpack all issues and discuss each issue individually.
Tikanga Haumaru: Revise our safety plans and kawa.
Hamate: Where are you now, physically, mentally, spiritually.
Mehameha: Access to services and ability to reach out for help.
Takarure: How do you uplift yourself. Options and strategies available.
Whakapuaki: Express yourself in a safe place, just you and me.
Whakakapi: Start to fill the kete with positivity.
Mōhiotanga: Knowledge, understanding, awareness. Discuss community awareness and what assistance is out there. Discuss turangawaewae, marae, whānau, iwi and the contributions each person makes.
Wawata: Hopes and dreams. Whare are your aspirations for you and your whānau.
Ngaruru: Flourish. How do you be abundant. Be excited, the future is out there for everyone.
Rauru: Parenting is a learned skill. Help is available if needed.
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Your facilitator is here to answer any questions you have about the wananga/programme.
We can help you organise transport and support with any barriers you may have impacting your ability to attend.
You can call our team for a chat or come in and have a coffee with her between 9am and 4.30pm Monday to Friday.
Office: 07 378 5204
Email: info@twowrefuge.org.nz
He Taonga Te Mokopuna Programme
Witnessing violence between family members can have serious long-term effects on a tamariki.
The trauma of witnessing family violence can lead to a range of challenging behaviours, destructive relationships and unmanageable feelings and thoughts.
Our babies brain development is affected by good experiences and equally by poor quality experiences.
The good news is that with the right support, tamariki can be helped to overcome trauma and to flourish and thrive.
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Every year, thousands of Tamariki in Aotearoa - New Zealand experience the serious trauma of being exposed to family violence in their homes. Data shows that Tamariki are present at 60% of NZ Police family violence attendances. Of these Tamariki:
46% witnessed physical violence
54% witnessed psychological abuse
4% witnessed incidents involving weapons
5% of cases an unborn child was exposed to violence
In many cases, the NZ Police report the Tamariki were not distressed by the violence. This indicates that violence has become completely normalised in their homes.
Tamariki may find it difficult to express their feelings. They may act out and appear to be "naughty" or may keep their feelings inside and become quiet and withdrawn.
It is important to remember the tamaiti is not the problem, the violence and its effects are the problem. With appropriate professional support we may be able to help prevent future problems.
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He Taonga Te Mokopuna is based on four principles of 'Te Whāriki’, the NZ National Early Childhood Curriculum statement:
Whānau Tangata - Family & Community
Kotahitanga - Holistic Development
Whakamana - Empowerment
Ngā Hononga - Relationships
The principles form a foundation, a Whāriki, throughout all sessions.
They will be built on session by session as the programme develops. Through a variety of teaching methods, they will be reinforced and strengthened.
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He Taonga te Mokopuna ia a program that will empower tamariki (children) to identify and express their feelings.
We have a wide range of resources are available to enable tamariki to explore emotions through role play, structured games, artwork, play therapy, stories, and music.
Throughout the programme we incorporate elements that are responsive to the culture of the tamariki and provide an opportunity for Tamariki to identify and explore their uniqueness and beauty and that they are valued.
Tamariki will develop strategies:
To deal with negative feelings, such as anger, grief and sadness in a safe and appropriate way.
To build self-esteem and resilience to identify and practice healthy and safe strategies to deal with emotions.
Weaved throughout, tamariki learn that any violence they have witnessed or experienced is a result of adult choices and there are alternatives to being aggressive when feeling angry or upset. Most importantly, any adult violence a child is or has been subjected to is never their fault.
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Group or one on one sessions:
Weekly time together
Pick up and returned to and from school
Immediate needs
Hearing their story
Safe people and places
Getting into nature
Build independent thinking
Art creation
Choices, decisions and consequences
Certificate upon completion
The final session will include a Hakari where we will share a meal and celebrate our journey together.
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Making a referral is as simple as making a call to us or coming to see us at our community office.
You can contact us in confidence to talk about your family or a family you know, the effects of violence and how best to support tamariki.
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Your facilitator is here to answer any questions you have about the wananga/programme.
We can help you organise transport and support with any barriers you may have impacting your ability to attend.
You can call our team for a chat or come in and have a coffee with her between 9am and 4.30pm Monday to Friday.
Office: 07 378 5204
Email: info@twowrefuge.org.nz
Oranga Tāne
"Ruia Taitea, Ka Tū Te Taikākā Anakē".
"Strip away the old to reveal the new".
Everyone deserves safe, fulfilling relationships.
Have you used, or been close to using violence against someone you care about?
Perhaps you've experienced abuse from someone close to you. Maybe both. You are not alone.
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By reaching out for support, tāne can break the cycle of violence and create a safer environment for themselves and their family members. Seeking help allows tāne to address and work through any underlying issues that may be contributing to their violent behavior, leading to personal growth and positive change.
Additionally, seeking help can improve mental health and overall well-being, as tāne can receive the necessary support and resources to heal from past trauma and learn healthier ways of coping with stress and conflict. By seeking help without fear of judgement, tāne can also strengthen their relationships with their partners and children, fostering a sense of trust, respect, and understanding within the whānau unit. Ultimately, seeking help for family violence as a man is a courageous and important step towards creating a safer and more harmonious home environment for everyone involved.
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If you're struggling to find the right person to listen to you without judgement, a tāne who will uphold your mana, and your wairua, please contact our team for a kōrero.
We can advocate for you and support in a variety of ways.
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For men 18 and over, we offer:
Manaakitanga
One on one tautoko
Individual or Group Wānanga
Referral to specialist support i.e. Lawyers, WINZ etc
Advocacy
Confidentiality
Self-management strategies
Safety planning
Information and advice
Whānau tautoko
Judgement free service
Whakapakari tinana - fitness therapy
"Ta te tāne, he karawhiua i te tewhatewha"
It is the role of our men to protect our Whānau.
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Your facilitator is here to answer any questions you have about the wananga/programme.
We can help you organise transport and support with any barriers you may have impacting your ability to attend.
You can call our team for a chat or come in and have a coffee with her between 9am and 4.30pm Monday to Friday.
Office: 07 378 5204
Email: info@twowrefuge.org.nz